What is going on in this world!

There is so much havoc going on everywhere you see, everywhere you turn around. Last night, while reading BBC i saw the news of a young man being shot by Pakistani paramilitary soldiers. To top it off, all this was shot on camera. Just reading that news disturbed me so badly, i feel such despair and hopelessness in humankind for such merciless killing. What shit it is, such bleakness....i feel sick in my stomach.

On homefront, in Orlando, the face of Caylee A. is haunting me. Being a mom myself, it's too hard for me to understnad how anyone, anyone could fathom putting a duct tape over a childs mouth. It's too graphic for me, its surreal. F***, f***, F***. My heart aches so fucking badly. I'm following news just so that something makes sense to me, but it doesnt. Nothing does.

Oh god! All in the name of what, why....Unrests that are tangible is downright dehumanizing and senseless. I pray for both of you, two people who were victims of such horrible acts.

- from jun 10, 2011 12.32 pm

Walk it, slut!

Society is guilty of many things, one such injustice is cropping up everywhere these days and is questioning the deep thoughts behind it. That is, are women "asking for it" when they dress in a revealing manner. Are they sending messages that they want to be disrespectfully treated??? HELL NO!!


Read on : Toronto 'slut walk' takes to city streets - Toronto - CBC News

http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/world-us-canada-13320785

As I read the news i was dumbfound thinking are men really such insecure people. Ofcourse, the people that this article refers to have an attribute of perverseness, but what about regular men?. As much as i was torn, between, what i know now and how as growing up a majority of girls  in india would have felt, i challenged myself of what i felt about this.

Surprisingly i had some sour thoughts about "Indian celebs" and thankfully not of regular people. Celebs do it for a reason, it's another story, so i left it at that. Now, coming to regular people, people we live with, our moms, sisters, our girl friends, our colleagues,  our kids even....do we subconsciously judge them for dressing non-conservatively or vice versa.

Stomping in London!

As an adolescent, i picked up vibes from women on how they dressed around me. People openly condemned or made harsh judgments of women otherwise. Subconsciously, a message is sent to the young minds that what we dress is what we think and how we expect others to think about us. So if you dress up conservatively, you give a msg to the people around that you should be treated conservatively and so forth. 

But as i grew up, i was strong enough to make up my mind, i met people from all types of backgrounds and realized we are more than how we clothe ourselves. Our thoughts are a separate entity form our way of dressing. Ofcourse, when we are in a professional environment, it calls for a certain way of dressing, yet, men or women should never stoop to think that women deserve anything less just because they dress in a way that shows more skin than the other "plain jane". No women should endure indecencies by public because of the way she chose to dress. 

India, indian people have long ways to go on this route. I'm so proud that New Delhi held its first slut walk. I'm happy there's open dialogue to let people think about it and hopefully this welcome change will come sooner than we anticipate. 

Meanwhile, to the sluts of the world, work it sister :)

- from 8/9/2011 at 11.54pm - posting it today

Fair vs Unfair

I dont get it, why cant the "dont ask and dont tell" be repealed. What's big deal...why do people feel so staunchly about this.

I'm reminded of the famous Shakespeare's lines...

If you prick us, do we not bleed?

if you tickle us, do we not laugh? 

if you poison us, do we not die? and 

if you wrong us, shall we not revenge? 

If we are like you in the rest, we will

resemble you in that.

I once worked with a guy, who never mentioned he was a gay, but i knew it somehow. So whenever his boyfriend would call, i'd tease him, wink and tell him...maybe you should get this. As we grew to know each other, which was inevitable as we worked in close proximity, he shared his life stories with me, how they met, how he fought the night before with him, how touched he was when his boyfriend patched things up so sweetly. I even helped them plan a vacation, complete with booking their hotel rooms. Not for once it felt unreal, all i saw was the love in his eyes, his voice, his expressions.....how he would wait for me to talk to him about resolving his concerns. 

As a community, as friends if we can stand by and support people through their life events, happy moments, birthdays, funerals...why should this basic support system be stripped of for the gay communities. That is plain simple wrong, unfair. 

This dont ask dont tell only forges the people to stay in closets, and figure out life from the key holes. Why??

In the same office, there was another guy, whom I never guessed, but he was a gay. Only M knew of it, but it was so sad, this other guy who was also a M, would put a picture of his friend who was girl on his desk to give everyone else an idea that she was his girl friend, as if they are dating. He was clearly in the closet, wanting to get out, but was afraid of being judged. 

Why or what gives people the ascendancy to say that one is more acceptable than the other. Why love of one kind is more acceptable than the other. 

Do we not bleed....do we not laugh...do we not love...