The sight of strength

Few days ago, a freind of mine said, "mera dil halka hua ab tumse baath karkay"....i dutifully accepted the gratitude she felt for unloading her issues.

We are told that we feel lighter when we share what we feel. I beleive so....but how do you spot the sight of strength in a friend who can endure your "stuff".

Am i making sense? Because in my kuckoo, i perfectly am.

The answer to that my baby is, how you feel and how they make you feel when you share. Thier voice, thier touch, thier honesty everything makes you feel so cared for and loved for. The enormity and the lightness of the situation takes a full circle. I hope you can be a friend with such strength and i hope you find friends with the same. 

Whats important for you?

Y'day in the middle of eating his pizza with this friend, T says "but mom l--- is eating with his mouth open". I somehow salvaged the situation there and moved on. 

I had been wanting to blog about this topic of how parents can enforce manners in kids and this is just as good time as another. For me, there are some manners that i swear by and i make sure that T learns them. I dont care what situation we are in, if there is a platform that i see as an opportunity for my son to learn, you bet, i'll seize it. He's learning to say his "No, thank you's", "Yes, please's", eating with mouth closed, cant swing feet while eating, using his table napkins, putting his shoes back where they belong, hang his towel after finishing it up, putting his clothes in the dirty laundry, he sometimes even tells his dad which one is a tea spoon and which one is a table spoon. I know i sound like a military mom but there are things i can tolerate except an unruly one.

However, its tricky when lines get fuzzy esp when we are in a setting where other parents dont acknowledge the same factor as an important stage to let thier kids know of what is acceptable and what isnt. I respect all parents choices irrepective of if i agree or not, I respect thier choices, i honestly do. But how do i explain my kiddo, that people make different choices, people dont tend to see the same picture even from the same stance. 

Instead, i probe T with questions that try to strike the point home that we are responsible just for our own manners and not everybody else's. Even as i'm reading my blog, i feel i come off as a harsh one, but, on my watch, I yearn for him to seek to do the right thing consciously. Do you ever see kids saying thank you without even looking at the person they are thanking for. I dont know why but it irks me!!

What are the ones that you lay the line on?? What are some important ones for you, do you ever think?

Nice watch's!

Few movies worth the watch time...

Ghost world strikes a chord of acceptable behaviors, challenges accepting unacceptable patterns, portrays the highs and lows of a seeking mind. It ends with Jaan pehchaanho, jeena ....of Sir Mohamed Rafi.

American Rhapsody- now that is one movie everyone who moved away from thier homeland would connect with. Parents who try hard, kids who take too easy, the struggle to come to a medium of embracing of who they have to be. But mostly of keeping promises.... 

The Englishman who went up the hill and came down the mountain - All about perseverance and old school meets new ideas. Awesome movie. Hugh Grant and that pub guy just break it all.

Before and After - Meryl Streep, Liam Neeson - A+ acting, excellent script. About a mother and father who are trying to save thier son from the accusations of a murder. But during the whole trial, how they each learn about eachother, the strength of family, Liam Neeson just comes off so awesomely and Meryl does this job of a mother, who lets the child grow in thier own pace and does what is right though it might...oh well...

Bridges of Madison County - I had seen this almost 5-6 years ago, i still remember one scene in the rain, she's in her car, and he's in his car and the struggle she does with herself with all the might she has to stay in her car and not go in his. She can so gracefully potray the character, it's freaking scary. 

Falling in love - Meryl Streep and Robert De Niro - My god, in few scenes it just tears your heart apart.  Aonther one of her classics, saw many years ago. One scene when she tells her friend about how she feels about robert de niro, expresses what she's bottled up. About two people, who meet as strangers in a train and become friends and how that later on grows into more and more. Time tests what they hold for eachother and they trust thier guts on that.

Kramer VS Kramer - Dustin Hoffman and Meryl Streep again. Cant tell how many oscars it won. Its just a beautiful movie.

The Reader ; and The Revolutionary Road - two of Kate Winslet's classics. Ok i gotta stop - i'm so getting carried away. I only started for Ghost world and American Rhapsody.

I;ll keep bringing more of what i like.