Valentine!

Ooh…valentines is around the corner.

Sweet surprises, tender admirations, cute first’s!

Asking that “special one” out, hoping “that special one” takes you out, the sweaty palms, the shy looks, sneaking in, sneaking out, and fibbing to parents! Wondering if you are thought of or not….wandering away in dreams….I'm a closet romantic, shh...

For many vowed down couples, who are totally uninterested in tackling this day, it’s quite a refuge to go to work and sift through the day without any hassles.

Curiously, I asked my friends around what are they planning for their valentines…

FIRST: One says, oh well, I’m going to Boscov’s to return something, I have 15 mts to shop, so whatever I find in fifteen mts for him is what he’s going to get!

SECOND: He has ordered dozen roses and made reservations for dinner at a fancy restaurant. Yaawnn….fine, whatever, do what everybody else does?

THIRD: this guy is taking his girlfriend for a helicopter ride. What can I say about that, he’s setting his bar too high for the rest of his valentine days to come.

FOURTH: A newly married guy- says- he actually went to his wife and said, what I’m going to say in unromantic, but there’s this deal, instead of doing roses and dinner and all, I’ll buy you a purse that you like. A WHAT- I ASKED- A PURSE?? Ok then….She actually liked his idea!

FIFTH: He’s taking one of his three girlfriends out for dinner and musical theatre. What about the other two…still in works he replied.

SIXTH: This guy is blessed with a pregnant GF- when I asked him he went on and on about his monthly expenditure of alimony, a big boat and all. I’m sorry I asked. But I know he’s the nicest…I’m sure he’ll pull something off.

He later on shared, that sometimes while she’s in the shower, he even sits on the b/r floor and talks to her. All the girls in the room, just echoed a sweet “aww….”, he then says, you have to take care of the little things even if you dont want to. HA HA….

WOW! So much for all my valentine stories…

What have you thought of for your valentine? What is your love story?

Hope everyone gets to be with their sweethearts, that person who brings that flame for life, that person who brings that sweet coziness to your life. Love you! As RJ call me “Love you, babes” :)

One of faves, i thought of three, but this one tops! Happy Valentine's Day, dolls and dudes!

Butterfly wings

I just noticed, my shoe has butterflies on the sole....it made me feel like flying, it made me feel want to flap my wings and go....

Makes

Dhobi Ghaat

I loved it. Not everyone gets it, but it's an offbeat movie for bollywood.

AK says "To my muse, my whore and my beloved - Bombay"

Who is your Muse? Ever wondered!

Deep still waters

Jaane kahan kaise shayher

Leke gaya yeh dil mujhey….

Few weeks ago I had this epiphany while sitting in the DMV at Harrisburg. I looked around that huge lobby, there was a mom feeding her baby, few blacks, few mexicans, few desi's, teenagers giggling, old men nodding thier heads of thier incovenience, an old lady going through her bag...I felt so in tune with life, with people around me. I realized that the people around us reflect what we feel inside. Let me change ‘We’ to ‘I’, since this is more of my reflection of thoughts.

Back to it, when I see people doing good deeds, they inspire me to be good, I relate to it, I understand the wanting and the well roundedness it has and the paying forward ripple effects it has. When I see bad people, really the horrible of horrible denominators of life, the murderers, molesters…in literal terms I cant relate to it, but I can understand the drive of where its coming from. The bad in me is not the same as in that person, but at some level of the ladders we intersect at some point.

A mothers need to ignore the spoiled child, a fathers want to protect his child from making a bad choice, a girls emotion of love, a womans helplessness, a mans drive to provide, walking the lines of arrogance, jealousy, feeling stupid, – I feel like the people who walk and talk around us are extensions of who we are.

That’s the right word, extensions.

The people extend our lives, our thoughts, our choices our mistakes, our loves, our deaths, our destinations. Life as a circle moves as whirlwind with all of us in it, there is no start and there is no end. We all live eachother’s lives without the slightest inkling of it.

I as a person might live the simplest of live’s but the most successful one is paying the cost I can’t afford to and I’m compromising on the dreams that the successful person couldn’t let go. In some ways, we both lost and we both win.

The rapist, he/she violate the most valued right of every human being- but we are no different from them, when we make choices that demean the value of life, when I ignore someone doing the wrong thing. When I tolerate intolerable aspects of life, I’m as small a person as the other one is.

I didn’t stand up for the person I most love because she loves the person that hurt her, and I felt so small about myself. I cant shake it off. By letting it go, I tolerated a behavior that is unacceptable and that makes me no better.

The next time, you look around and wonder why people behave a certain way and are quick to judge them. Take a second, think, which part of you do they reflect. Which part of that person resides in you. It wont be the most literal one, but it’ll be in a way that’ll take you by surprise.

I tried explaining this to a friend and it totally went over her head. I chuckled and thought I’ll share here. I’ve also realized, the waters in my head run deep when I’m not chillaxing….

Snowed in

Taran making snow angels leaning on the snow! My raja babylu...

This is my fave, i wish i hadnt messed up my camera at Reheboth, i could have taken some awesome pics. My camera phone did an ok job i guess.

My Patio

this is my second fave, love that tree...just so gracefully standing there.